Find your peace

Some people procrastinate, others are always on their toes. Then there are people like me who are always restless. In our daily routine we keep doing the same work, week after week and month after month, only to realise that we are not doing anything productive. We start criticizing ourselves and then keep on making plans with no deadlines and everything becomes so messed up like it was never before. We again move into this weekly vicious cycle of nothingness and restlessness. In this new world of COVID 19, it is hitting even harder, it is making people depressed, and taking the depressed ones to borderline threat. To themselves and others. This destructive environment is pushing people to the edge. So it's become very crucial to talk to one another. Ask for help. Offer help. And most importantly just do nothing and listen. Not just because the other person will be able to say what he or she is feeling but, also because this will help them feel in control. The re...

Today I attended an online funeral of a loved one. It felt like us being together or apart doesn't even make sense anymore. While in one view the life has come to a stand still but, in the other sense it is till rolling the dice. Nothing from nature has come to a halt. There are still earthquakes, floods, cyclones and other form of disasters hitting the globe every single day. And then there is death. Apart from the fact that death has become an every day news, (given that we live in COVID times). It doesn't make it less difficult neither does it help with the feeling of helplessness. But, it alarms us that all of us are walking towards the same destination, no matter which path we choose or which lane we prefer. Leaving this world is inevitable but, when we leave there will be things that people will remember and talk about. Some will be sad, some will be fine, some will be devastated but, there will be a few who will smile the very next moment. For example t...

Live in the present, not in the past or the future. This is something we all hear and know. That there is nothing that we can change in the past or plant in the future. All we can do is plan for the future and try and live where we are at present. But, still we spend a huge chunk of our lives wondering what could have happened or what can happen and thus hardly think about what is happening around us.  At times like these when the world is at its knees, bending in a shape like never before in a million years. This gives us a very true picture of how unpredictable and fragile is the bubble of life we all live in.  It doesn't matter anymore wherever you were and you can't plan for where you will be.  This is the golden time in our lives which no one ever received.  Time to introspect, feel, smile, breathe and most of all do what is needed rightnow. Because, world has not hit the restart button but, it has just gone on a snooze timer and as soon as this timer turns off ...

When you were a child, a child that dreamed, the one who slept wide awake and never thought of anything bad or negative. How did you feel? Don’t really remember, right! Have you ever thought of that energy, that laughter, that spontaneity or the urge to ask a thousand questions at once ever again? Not really. And how do you defend yourself for it? Let me guess! You are too old to do that, or too busy, tired, overburdened, overcautious, too sick or the lamest one perhaps that you are too mature to do all that. And all the time when someone asks you how are you? and you respond back saying, I am fine. But, deep down you are asking for help because something is always missing. You never feel complete or fulfilled.   Except a few times when the day was really awesome or someone you love took out some time to talk to you. But, is feeling special and wonderful just for a few days every month okay for you? Is it good enough for you to proceed like this for the r...

Our friends, parents, teachers, colleagues, seniors, virtual friends and every other person we meet, there is always a need to impress them. To make them feel fond of us. We try and try, each day to do something that interests others, that will make them feel good about us. What we forget is, that it’s not others that need to be impressed. It is your own self. How can you make others feel good or impressed about you when you yourself are struggling to feel happy or at peace? In this technologically driven world, we are always looking for others to validate us. Stamp us liked on social media, follow us and so on. Remember that evening in the office when you had finished all your work and wanted to head home but, instead went out with your boss for drinks. Reached home late and were feeling guilty to have not spent the time with your loved ones instead? Or the other day when were in a family gathering on a pre-approved holiday but, kept answering to calls and respondin...

Life is unpredictable. Its challenging, rough, and for sure something we hadn’t pictured for ourselves. Sometimes there are moments that make us question our presence and we hardly know what we are doing where we are going and what is next (if at all we see anything at that point). We call it, Rock Bottom. Thousands of years ago dinosaurs were extinct because they couldn’t adapt to the changing weather. They resisted change and all of them, thousands of them gone. Died. The same is with us. We must change, adapt to whatever is coming next. To whatever is happening now. If we resist, we usually end up in places and situations where we feel like sinking or rather falling from the sky. In such situations we only need to ask ourselves, is this what I want? Is this what I wished for myself. The answer is a 100% NO. Let me tell you a secret, a formula that will help you but, only if you believe in it. It is, “No one can change except you”. Cliché, right? But, jus...

You were chosen to be born from a billion options. You are unique and different and so is your purpose. Its different for everyone. Some people find their purpose with ease and some take a lifetime to find one. There isn’t any formula to get to your purpose but, there is a voice inside you which makes you feel happy or sad at times. Even when there is a situation that is not in your favor, you sometimes feel that it happened for the right reason. That it is good in the longer run. That’s the voice talking. So, things that make you feel happy, where time stops, and you can go on for hours without feeling tired is the thing you are meant for. Hence, in order to find your purpose and passion you need to ask yourself a few questions as asked by the famous motivational speaker Jay Shetty. ·          What do I love doing? ·          What am I best at? ·       ...

You have gone through so much and yet have always surfaced as a champion. The amount of work that you do or the amount of pressure that you take only makes you stronger each time. Let life throw stuff on you, its okay, its natural. The important thing here is to keep moving. I don’t want you to take a leap at once, all I want for you is to take the first step. Take a step towards a better you, take step towards a beautiful you, take step towards a humble you, take step in the direction that leads you towards the real you. Stop pretending to be someone you are not. You are not a soft toy that can break on one stretch. You are a metal ball that has the power and strength to make an impact. You don’t need to be too hard on yourself. Its life let it take its course. You were chosen to be born from a billion options, you endured the pain of labor with your mother, there is no reason for you to feel weak at this point. It is just a phase and you are capable enough to take that on...