The need to impress

Our friends, parents, teachers, colleagues, seniors, virtual friends and every other person we meet, there is always a need to impress them.

To make them feel fond of us. We try and try, each day to do something that interests others, that will make them feel good about us. What we forget is, that it’s not others that need to be impressed. It is your own self.

How can you make others feel good or impressed about you when you yourself are struggling to feel happy or at peace? In this technologically driven world, we are always looking for others to validate us.

Stamp us liked on social media, follow us and so on.

Remember that evening in the office when you had finished all your work and wanted to head home but, instead went out with your boss for drinks. Reached home late and were feeling guilty to have not spent the time with your loved ones instead?

Or the other day when were in a family gathering on a pre-approved holiday but, kept answering to calls and responding to mails. You were hardly present there and later had an argument with your partner.

Ask yourself was it worth it? Couldn’t they have done without you? Or, they could have, you know that but, in order to be on top of your professional game and because of the need to impress you missed out on the stuff that should really matter.

What if after all that you have done someone still doesn’t validate you, like you or attend to you as per your need?

This initiates a process of self-hate, worthlessness, being out of balance, emotional disability and a feeling that leads us to a life which can be dark and painful.

I read a quote somewhere. It said, If the whole world was blind, who would you impress?

Try answering this.